The Helpers' Guide Setting Boundaries and Saying "NO" | taught by Joeel & Natalie Rivera

Are you a helper, a giver, or someone who works in a helping field?

Do you find yourself saying "yes" when you really mean "no"?

Do you tend to over commit and have no time left over to take care of yourself and do the things you love?

People like us have big hearts. We care, and sometimes this leads us to sacrifice for others, allow them to depend on us and forget that we matter, too.


This course is for the helpers and givers who want to develop the confidence say "NO" when it's time to honor themselves. Who want to help uplift others in a way that is supportive, not rescuing or creating dependency. To give from a healthy place of confidence and empowerment, rather than out of obligation or guilt.

All of our online courses are completely virtual! They consist of video instruction, with instructors Joeel and Natalie Rivera, as well as downloadable and printable PDF handouts and activities. Our courses are highly interactive and fun! Complete this program from anywhere in the world and at your own pace (and even in your pajamas if you want to!). 

We're going to teach you the tools and the mindset to empower yourself AND others. We know how hard it can be to put yourself first. We're both the classic "helper" type--we just want so badly to make other people's lives better! But, we've also learned that when we are not taking care of ourselves, things get out of balance, leading us to become burnt out, unwell, and unable to contribute to those we love.

We're going to teach you everything we've learned in our own journeys, our decade of experience in psychology, as well as what we've learned through working with thousands of other "helpers"--whether life coaches we've trained or individuals we've coached and met through our workshops.

This course will leave you feeling confident and empowered, with an inspiring vision of your new empowered life and concrete goals to get you there. Plus we know you'll enjoy the course! Join our nearly 25,000 happy students in 163 countries.

What am I going to get from this course?

  • Have the confidence and tools to say "no" and honor yourself
  • Know how to support others rather than enable or rescue them
  • Empower others so they can depend on themselves
  • Take care of yourself so that your cup is full and you have more to give
  • Be a good example of self-care and healthy boundaries
  • Give yourself permission to go for your own dreams
  • Release fear, guilt, obligation and resentment
  • See your own true value and know how to give to yourself

By learning to say "NO" you will be honoring yourself--you'll be healthier and happier and therefore have more to give.

Course Syllabus

  • 1

    Introduction to Self-Care

    • Introduction and Meet the Instructors - Complete Guide to Self-Care and Boundary Setting

    • What is Self-Care and Why is It Important?

    • How Does Self-Care Help You?

    • The Science of Self-Care

    • Tasha's Self-Care Journey

    • Clip from Interview with Tasha, Joeel & Natalie - Tasha's Story

    • Full Downloadable Workbooks

  • 2

    Healing and Self-Love

    • Self-Love & How that Supports Your Self-Care Journey

    • Morning Mantras for Self-Care & Mental Health

    • Tribe and Community: How having a support group will help you with your self-care journey.

  • 3

    Honoring Yourself

    • The Importance of Honoring Yourself

    • Honoring Yourself Activity

    • Contribution is Not Only for Others

    • Helping vs Supporting

    • Helping vs Supporting Activity

    • Putting the Oxygen Mask On Yourself First

    • Filling Your Own Cup

  • 4

    The Power of Boundaries and Saying "No" (and "Yes)

    • When Being a Helper Can Do More Harm than Good

    • Strategies People Use to Get You to Say Yes

    • Tools for Saying "No"

    • Tools for Saying No Activity

    • Overcoming Resistance to Saying “No” (The Pain/Pleasure Principle)

    • Overcoming Resistance Pain-Pleasure Activity

    • The Power of "Yes"

    • Saying No and Yes Activity

    • What is Boundary Setting?

    • How to Set Boundaries

    • Boundary Setting Activity

  • 5

    Coping with Toxic Energy

    • Why Recognizing Toxic Energy is a Game Changer

    • Toxic Energy Activity

    • Does Toxic Energy Mean Someone is Bad?

    • How to Call Out Toxic Energy

    • Can People with Toxic Energy Change?

    • How Do I Solve Having Toxic Energy?

  • 6

    Self-Care Tools

    • Coming From the Heart

    • Tools for Self-Care

    • Tools for Self-Care Activity


Lead Instructors & Coaches

Joeel & Natalie Rivera

Joeel and Natalie Rivera are professional speakers, trainers, and coaches. Their mission is to provide tools that empower people to ignite their dreams,  unleash their potential and fulfill their purpose. Through their  company, Transformation Services, Inc., they provide digital content  publishing, online courses, and life coach training programs that act as  a catalyst for personal empowerment. Joeel  is a former psychology professor with a Master’s Degree in Counseling  and Education and is currently completing his dissertation for his Ph.D.  in Psychology, with an emphasis on happiness. Using the science of  psychology and human potential, they train leading edge entrepreneurs,  leaders, life coaches, and individuals how to master the power of their  mind and create their destiny.They  are serial entrepreneurs who challenge and inspire others to take their  power back through self-employment as INDIEpreneurs, (self-employed  freedom junkies). Between the two of them, they’ve started over a dozen  businesses, from photography to a non-profit teen coaching center, and  from an import business to a holistic virtual office. They  became INFOpreneurs in 2014 when they fully transitioned their print  magazine into digital format because they found they could reach an  exponential, worldwide market at a fraction of the time and cost. They  closed their physical offices and began converting their in-person  workshops and speeches into information products and online courses. Then, in 2015 they received a proverbial “kick in the pants” to go  “all-in” when Joeel fell ill after traveling overseas. Unable to leave  the house, they continued reach and inspire their market by creating 50  online courses in only 2 years, including digitizing their popular life  coach training programs and certifications. Today, they have served 300,000+ students from 195 countries.